Why DID I get married???

It’s a stormy Saturday night. And GOD is working it out…..it’d thundering like crazy outside. I’m gonna sit still til it’s done and over with.

But let me pop a movie in…..what shall I watch??? I have an enormous amount of videos to select from, but I’ll stick to what’s here in this bedroom instead of having to go to the other room or downstairs.

Since we are having little marital spat, how about Why Did I get married. I really like this movie, Tyler did a good job. I saw the play and enjoyed that as well.

I won’t do a bit by bit of the movie, I’ll just note my opinion here and there through out.

In generally, I love the idea of couples getting together annually for a group vacation. We tried it once and had a good time. We did a cruise to Florida, Mexico and Belize. Anyway back to the movie……

First opinion, why did Diane (Sharon Leal) not listen to Terry (Tyler Perry) when he bought it to her attention that she’s not being a very attentive wife and parent. I think we owe it to each other to make time at the very least on a weekly basis. Now I understand that both of their professions require a great deal of time and attention but so does their marriage. And frankly what they did to get one another they need to do to keep one another. An excellent point was made that sometimes we hear, but don’t listen

Second opinion, I had a real problem with Mike (Richard Jones) not wanting to sit next to his wife Sheila (Jill Scott) on the plane. And then he had the nerve to snicker when the flight attendant informed Sheila that she’d have to get off the plane. His exact words, “What? I’ve been telling her big azz for months now to lose some weight.” If I could have paused the movie when it was in the theaters……..that was the first indication that some serious topics were going to be tackled in this movie.

Moving on………………….Marcus (Michael Jai White) and Angela (Tasha Smith)…..I loved these two……Angela was seriously a ball of fiya on the train, she handled those gentlemen and their dog…….and that’s all I can say, beside this was the first indication I was in for some laughs curtsey of Angela.

Patricia (Janet Jackson) and Gavin (Malik Yoba) appearances are something else. These two look like the perfect couple. But of course perfection often alludes to deeper issues as with Patricia and Gavin.

Ok, so for real the reason for putting the movie is because I’m wondering why people get married.

I’m the first to admit I went into marriage with a preconceived notion of nothing but pure happiness. And my first year of marriage was anything but that. Approaching my third year, things have smoothed out a little. But we still encounter bumps in the road. So I often find my self asking, why did I get married.

I wanted someone to love me in the good times and bad times, winter, spring, summer and fall. I wanted stability, so when an unexpected event occurred, there’s someone that has my back. I wanted someone to have children with, one or two, no pets. I wanted someone to grow old with…….did I get married for the wrong reasons???

Whatcha gonna do with it…..

I told a friend that I finally started my blog. And the questions began with what are you going to do with it. I wasn’t exactly ready for that question. Then the second round of questions included how do I get people to come to my page. Again silence from me.

Initially I just wanted an outlet to vent about various things. You know random thoughts when I don’t have anyone to share with or talk to. But then I got to thinking…….maybe I should tackle a few topics here and there. Subjects that wouldn’t necessarily require me to do much in depth research.

So then the begin the next stage of thinking, what topics/subjects to cover. I’ve seen various blogs dedicated to personal finance, fashion, hair celebrity to name a few. So instead of being trapped in a box by only blogging about one specific topic, I’m going to venture on various things. My project over the course of the next week or so will be to comprise a list of various things I’d like to blog about. I have a few ideas, but by comprising a list I can reference when I’m at a lost for what to blog about.

I’m off to start my list…………

A Song for me????

So here I am in the house on a Saturday evening not doing much. I’m in a Donny Hathaway: A Song for You, kinda mood, so I get on google to find a video to upload to my page and there are a few options.

First up is Ray Charles with Willie Nelson – loving the piano being played by Ray Charles, but I’m not really feeling the country vocals in the beginning, of course Ray Charles ends the song wonderfully, but what other options do I have

There’s another one with Ray Charles by himself…….

A live performance by Usher…….he does I decent job. The link is unavailable for embedding. Next……

Beyonce is next with a live performance as well. She does a cool performance of the song.

Whitney, oh my………could it be? Yep sure nuff, it’s the old Whitney singing the song I want to hear………but an error when I attempt to load the video.

Lastly, there’s Donny’s version. Error again.

So ends my search for uploading a video for A Song For You.

Book - Suze Orman Women & Money

Looks like those that missed out earleir this year to down load Suze Orman's Women & Money have another chance.

Learning

so I'm still unable to post pics, but I found another little sumtin, sumtin.........I know how to type a word and have that word, if clicked, direct to what I'm referencing.......someone reading this might think I'm really "special" and I'll be the first to admit I've had my share of blonde moments.

At any rate here are the shoes I purchased earlier this week.

This is such a neat trick.

Weekend Plans…….

I don’t have much planned for the weekend. I’m gonna try being flexible and open should someone call.

Tonight I have an HOA meeting. I can see it now, I walk in there and they stop talking to say to me “this meeting is for owners” to which I’ll reply “I know, I read the sign just outside” and then they’d come back with “So, you’re an owner” to which my next response would be “My name is ________and I own ________. Would you like my driver’s license and social security numbers as well?” I can be such a smarty pants at times. But heck, some people deserve it.

Anyway, how’d I veer off subject just that quickly……….so hubby and I are going to rent a movie from Red Box, go to the movies or go grab a bite to eat. My mother insists that we try this place in Bowie called Texas Road House Grille. I looked them up online and the picture of the marquarita is what caught my eye. I like grown up beverages.

Now tomorrow is definitely a different story. I plan to hit the track (walking) about 9 am. Hopefully my wonderful mother will call and wake me up bright and early and I can get there by 8:30. Then I have an acupuncture appointment at 11. But after that I’m completely free. Originally I planned to go find a white outfit for Hubby’s family reunion shin-ding, but since he found something for me yesterday that’s off my list.

My father’s sister from Cali is coming in for the week. So maybe I will get the chance to see her. But she may want to spend her time with my grandmother, which is completely understandable.

And then Sunday, I planned to get my niece and we’d spend the day in the house watching movies. But who knows if that will work out.
Anyway, that’s what I have so far.

Gas expense results

1/2/2008 through 6/23/2008.......................$1,078.49

My total is $1,078.49………..that’s a lot of money spent on gas. But I pay the price, because I like to drive. I like going to the mall. I like driving all the way to Arundel Mills to the Walmart versus going to the one in Landover Hills, which is a little less than 2 miles from where I live. How crazy is that? Hubby is always saying how it’s a waste for me to drive past one store to get to the same store on the other side of town. But hey, I likes what I likes…..

Now let’s see what else can I work on with all this down time on my hands…….Oh let me break down that total to months and chart the results and then do a comparison……..yeah, I have that much time on my hands……

Something to do

Since there's no work for me to do today, I'm gonna tally up how much I spent on gas thus far this year. Of course it'll be a rough estimate, but very close to actual. The total won't inlcude any cash purchases for gas, nor for obvious reasons, gas purchases by Hubby.

Let's see how quickly I can get this done.

And still reading

Well, I had some work (finally) to do when I got in this morning. And that's why it is taking me so long to get thru reading my daily dose of blogs. Some interestings things going on. Once I learn how to connect them without the url, I'll comment in detail. But I still have 43 to go, and that does take into account that some post multiple times through out the day. So back to reading I go.......

A Change

A friend sent this to me, and it bought tears to my eyes. A change is in order, and if we could all just come together, we can make this world a MUCH better place.

http://www.dipdive.com/dip-politics/wato/

June 25, 2008

Top of the morning to ya. My google reader says I have 113 subscriptions with 108 unread messages. It is now 9:41 am, let’s see how soon I can get thru them.

Really???

I'm on a third computer and the pics still aren't showing. What do I have to do???????Jimney Cricket!

Pics

So my first attempt at posting a pic didn't work. Let's see if it works this way. Here's the shoe again:

Progress

So it looks like i sorta got the hang of posting pics, I can't see the pic on my side. By the way, those are the shoes I purchased from Nine West yesterday. I can't get over having to pay shipping and tax, that's the frugal side of me complaining.

And I posted a video from you tube. I might have the hang of this. Now I just need to add my blogroll and I'll be set. But I think when I switched formats for the background, it took off the blogroll. The backgrounds provided here on blog aren't as nice as other's I've found.

Well I'm off to learn some more blogging tricks........

Practice: Inserting Videos

Practice

Ok, so I'm practicing posting pics. Here's my first attempt:

Pub Table

So I’d really like to put a pub table in my living room. Of course I’d have to re-arrange things and remove either the sofa or love seat. But it would be nice. I’d put a screen up in the back to kinda give the feel of it being a separate, and I’d add a rug underneath the table. Maybe the screen would be too much……after all there’s really not much space. But here are two pub tables I like:

Pub table:

http://www.everythingfurniture.com/hs-pub-set-5.html

http://www.pubsets.com/Home-Styles-5987-358-HO1765.html

Ok, so I’m thinking a rug on top of the existing carpet would be abit too much. I’ll concentrate more on making the furniture look cohesive versus added additional elements that might have the room looking overly crowded.

I know......

I know what I could be doing......figuring out this blogging thing. I could read thru the help section to learn and practice doing savy things here on my blog.

Blog reading.......

So as I posted earlier I subscribe to 112 blogs via google reader. And I’m finally down to about 12 for the day. Granted a few post several times through out the day. But it’s always a chore to get thru them in a timely fashion each morning.

I’m sure the BET awards show last night had a lot to do with it taking me so long to get thru them.

Shoes, Shoes.......

This shoe is really nice:

http://www.bandolino.com/s?namespace=catalog&origin=search_results.jsp&event=p.shoe&pid=14881&search=yes&bid=0

Here are some other’s I’m feeling as well:

http://www.spiegel.com/shop/product_single.aspx?style_id=29438142&index=3&gp_coll_id=5005&gp_cat_id=7000&nav_cat_id=10761&category_id=10768

http://www.spiegel.com/shop/product_single.aspx?style_id=15871142&index=19&gp_coll_id=5005&gp_cat_id=7000&nav_cat_id=10761&category_id=10768

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=307595&CategoryID=35285

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=311595&CategoryID=35285

these in black patent:

http://www.spiegel.com/shop/product_single.aspx?style_id=32391142&index=27&gp_coll_id=5005&gp_cat_id=7000&nav_cat_id=8459&category_id=8460

I probably couldn’t even walk in these:

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=290011&CategoryID=37622

If I had it like that, I’d buy this bag in organic orange:

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=289313&CategoryID=27693&LinkType=SiteAd&LinkLoc=26846&AdID=46261

I decided

That I’d pass my time here at work by window shopping on the net. I’ll find items I’d like to have either personal, for hubby or for my house, and post a pic and the url so I’ll have a record of what I want for future references.

So yesterday I called up Best Buy to purchase an extended battery for my laptop. The dang on thing costs dang on near one fifth of the cost of the laptop itself……but I’ll be able to use my laptop when I travel without having to worry about the battery. So hubby and I can watch a movie on the plane or while driving………..

Additionally, I purchased these:
http://www.ninewest.com/n/browse/product.s?productId=2912587&source=category&index=26&prodIndex=26&listSize=124&categoryId=526934&codeName=DARBYR

(remember I'm new at blogging, so I haven't figured out exactily how to post pics just yet)

I saw them in the Nine West store in Wheaton Plaza, but they didn’t have my size. So I finally went on line and ordered them. I got black, of course. Nearly 80 percent of the shoes I own are black. I’m gonna try to be adventurous one of these days. But hey, I’m really conservative. I’m not much of a risk taker wear fashion is concerned, I’m merely a bystander rooting from the sidelines.

Home improvements

Ok, so I’ve been procrastinating big time about the various home improvements I want to do. Here’s my list (in no particular order):

Windows
New track lighting for the living room
New ceiling fan for my bedroom
Closet doors for both bedrooms – 6
Replace carpet throughout
New kitchen counter top
Bathroom remodeling
Replace dishwasher
Replace refrigerator

I’m sure I can get at least three of these done by the end of the summer if I can find a good handy man.

Another day

It appears that this will be another slow day for me. I was sorta hoping that I’d get here and someone would need help with something……time goes entirely too slow here at work when I don’t have anything to do. And then a co-worker said I should enjoy not having anything to do *blank stare*, ok I guess I should. In the back of my mind, I didn’t get up out of the bed this morning to come to work and not have anything to do. I could have stayed home and kept busy. There are loads of things I could have done. Namely:
Wash clothes
Clean the kitchen
Clean the bathroom
Do my hair
Surf the net
Read my book
Write in my journal
Do my homework

Granted I wouldn’t receive any payment for doing those things, so I guess I’m good with coming in getting paid with nothing to do. But I’m determined to make this a productive day.

Now what…….

I think I’ve run out of things to do. I’ve reserved books to pick up at the library. And I’m tired of looking at the time only to find out 5 minutes have gone by when it feels like an hour later. Time is really going too slowly for me, especially today. So now it 4 and I have another 2 hours to go. I wish there was a way I could pull out my book and read. Although, I could very pull out my journal and write, but who writes things down at work any more. That might be a give away that I’m not working on anything.

I can’t even do my homework, because I didn’t bring the textbook with me. Dang on thing is too heavy.

Oh, I can talk about that. I seriously believe the colleges and universities are receiving kickbacks from textbook publishers. Why the need to change books every year? Why not just publish supplementals that can be purchased for reference? But no, I had to go and buy this dang on $95 textbook, used no less, for only one semester. And there’s really no point in even considering resaling the book, since I won’t get more than 30 for it.

Having no work to do is seriously giving me the blues. I should have named this blog: Life’s Blues. That would have been catchy and so very true.

Dang, I’m hungry. I’d really like a crabcake. Ok, I’ll get carried away if I start talking about food so let me end it here.

I wonder how many blogs I am subscribing to via my google reader. Let’s check now……112 dang……that’s a lot. No wonder I don’t get much done when I get home, I’m busy reading blogs. But this evening I think I’ll roller set my hair. Sporting a ponytail in the summer is really not a good look for me.

Talk about rambling......I went from food to blogs and on to hair.

Blogroll

I just noticed, my blogroll is not here with the new background. What's that all about?

Going Thru.....

I’m abit vexed with a situation at work, so I picked up my “Daily Promises for Women of Color” and here’s what I found under guidance:

You Guide me with your counsel,
And afterward you will take me into glory
Psalm 73:24

Teach me to do your will,
For you are my God;
May your good Spirit
Lead m on level ground.
Psalm 143:10

Jesus said: “When he, the Spirit of truth, comes he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.”
John 16:13

The Lord will guide you always;
He will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land
And he will strengthen your frame.
You will be like a well-watered garden,
Like a spring whose waters never fail.
Isaiah 58:11

Another day…….

I don’t have much to work on again. So I’ve inquired with the AP person and of course she comes thru and passes on something to keep me busy for a few. But then what……….

Waiting for the weekend already.......

I’ve checked my back account and it’s low, I mean Flo-Rida low, low, low, low……….what will I do this weekend. I told my niece I’d pick her up Sunday, but with limited funds I’m second guessing that idea. We could sit in the house all day and watch movies…….yeah that might work. Hubby has to work so she and I will pop some jiffy popcorn and relax and watch a few movies.

New Look

I'm getting a little savy here.......I'm a few days old and I've change the background......you like? I do. Now if only I cand figure out how to reference other blogs without having to copy and paste the url, that is so not cool........

Progress???

So I’ve been working on the 101 list about myself since about 10 am. And I’m only on 11………what does that say about me? Maybe I should rethink doing a list…………Hold up I think I have two more to add…..ok so the list is now up to 12.

This is precisely what I get for attempting to jack an idea form another blogger.........

Jacking.......

So I was over at A Dyssturbed Mined’s spot < http://dyssturbed.blogspot.com/2008/06/12-years-ago-today.html >and he had this song playing in honor of his 12th wedding anniversary and I just had to have it……so there’s a link at the bottom, play it and fall for it like I did.

Then I was over at Opinionated Diva’s spot < http://divaliciousopinions.wordpress.com/2008/06/08/101-things-about-me/ > and saw she listed 101 things about herself, and I’m gonna jack that idea as well…….the post to follow soon.

My first comment......

My very first commenter……..wow I’m excited.

At any rate a question was asked regarding my screen name………I learned early on that laughter is the best medicine and always trying to either make others laugh or find humor in otherwise bleak situations. The 808 is the first three digits of an old phone number, I don’t know why but it’s stuck with me. So, I combined the two some years ago and now in internet world I’m known as: Laughing808

Thanks for commenting and inquiring……..Have a blessed work week.

Weekend recap

Here I sit Sunday evening relaxing, trying to sum up my weekend. Here’s what I did:

Friday night – movies: Incredible Hulk, it was really good. But I suspect they are gonna try to make sequel; then we got stuck in traffic for about a little over an hour. We wound up have to turn around and drive back the way we came to get home.

Saturday – I hit the track, came home and sorta relaxed, cousin’s baby shower: it was cool,; got too see the younger cousins, one is 18 now…….gosh that was eye opening. All three bothers came thru, first the half comes strolling in, then the oldest came in and actually stayed, and the youngest was outside, although the baby and girlfriend came in. The mall to find something to wear, only to wind up wearing something I already had at home. Lastly to the club with hubby, it was nice the DJ was cool the atmosphere was nice and enjoyable, but I was tired as heck and ready to go home.

Sunday – picked up niece, went to see Kung-Fu Panda, it was a cute movie then to parents’ house for a short visit and then dropped niece off and now I’m back in the house. Wow a busy weekend.

So that’s a recap of my weekend. Now I need to get my homework done and prepare for this week. I will get my clothes ready for the weekend so I can possibly get to work in a timely fashion.

So let me get cracking…….